Sitting here trying to write with Christina Aguleria playing in the background I wonder if anyone reading this will take away anything from it, I hope you do. So I want to start by saying that to me, you are beautiful and that is the truth.
This was inspired by two conversations I have had with two different people, whose identities will stay anonymous as usual. The situation is seen everywhere in everyday life, but this specific conversation was based on Instagram.
I would like to address the boys (and some girls) first. Those people that comment ‘hot’ or ‘fit’ and other terms and emojis on photos that girls post with a lot revealed or even just a normal picture of a girl, although this post is mostly based on the more sexualised types of photos. Please boys, think before you comment! Have you ever gotten to know the girl properly? Do you think it’s right to objectify her in such a way? Is it right to follow a girl purely because she is pretty and you want that on your feed? Those are pretty important questions to ask yourself before you do anything else.
Every single girl on this planet is beautiful inside and out and every one of us deserve respect. This respect is essential now, especially because we now live in a world where social media is becoming more and more prominent in everyday lives. For a girl to say, “he likes me for my body, not for my personality” we must really be going wrong somewhere. Girls and women are human beings not objects that are there for you to look at like a piece of art. Sure, you can love the way your girlfriend/partner/wife looks, but do not ever let her think that it is only her physical beauty that you love. Physical beauty does not last forever, but inner beauty does. So please think before you comment, because maybe that girl you find ‘hot’ isn’t as confident as you think, and your comments can be detrimental in the long term.
Now to the girls. We live in a world that bases our worth on our physical beauty. However, nobody can judge how much you are worth. That is for you to decide. I get so mad when I see girls my age posting pictures and selfies with barely anything on and most of their cleavage on show. What makes me more mad is when they keep track of all of their followers and likes. If someone doesn’t seem you worthy of their feed, that is their problem and it shouldn’t affect what you think of yourself, you don’t need to care. If you were to look down in history, women have progressed so much! We have gone from being objects that were seen to belong at home to becoming scientists, doctors, artists, politicians, and so much more. Yet now, we are choosing to make ourselves objects once again. Objects that are sexualised as if sexuality is the only thing that with attract someone’s attention. It isn’t. Science has proven that successful relationships are based on trust, compatibility, and respect not sexual attraction.
Hardly anyone seems to think that they are beautiful anymore and that is what needs to change. When you are reading this I want you to learn on thing. You should not base your self worth on what other people think of you. That is where we are going wrong. Yes wear make up, be girly, wear what you want, but do it for yourself and do it let what other people think of you be the basis of your value and worth. If someone tries to objectify you, don’t stand for it. Have pride in yourself. You are so beautiful inside and out and I shouldn’t have to tell you that. Girls, you shouldn’t let those comments boost your self-esteem, because you need to find that confidence within yourself. As I have said before, hardly anyone thinks they are beautiful anymore, even though everyone is beautiful. It is so confusing that people can’t see that they don’t need somebody else’s approval to feel good about themselves, because you are already beautiful and smart. Remember that fact, and wake up every morning and say to yourself, “I am smart, I am beautiful, I am worth it”.