Confidence and More…

Hey guys!

I’m feeling like I’m back on the writing train now that I’ve posted, so another post is worth it. 

I recently went to visit a First Nations woman in Canada that did healing with horses, and if I’m honest at first I didn’t completely believe in spiritual healing. However I do believe that animals, especially horses, have a healing effect on people because of their natural instinct as herd animals. She showed me that for a horse to trust a person, first they have to show the horse that they are in charge, by acting like a stallion in the herd and showing who is in charge, without violent action, and this can only be done with confidence, because if the stallion is not confident, how will he protect the herd. The next step was to act like the lead mare (female horse) and to lead the horse, which will only occur if you have earned their trust. If the horse trust you, if will follow you, however, if you do not walk with confidence. Your head isn’t up, and shoulders aren’t square, the horse will lose confidence in you and stop following you. 

I eventually achieved this but it was difficult at first because I did not act with confidence. The part that I found most important in what she taught was that this way of acting could be applied to everyday life. To walk with confidence showing that you are not scared of people is important. She also told me that being open is good, but sometimes we need to put up some walls to protect ourselves from harm. The confusing messages the horse was getting because I kept breaking and making the bond between us could also be applied to a teenager growing up. Mixed messages are sent to our parents because we want some distance but not all of it. Picking the big battles is a better way of gaining trust than picking unnecessary small ones, because they are actually important to you and not just insignificant.

This summer I have found that confidence is such an important part of our lives, especially for teenagers because we are still finding who we are and who we want to become. I’m not the best teenager in the world, and I’m not the wisest or the smartest, but I can try and I believe that trying to be the best with confidence in yourself is the best attitude to have. 

The short amount of time I spent with the horses and this healer inspired me. Humans are not herd animals, though we are social, but we have a tendency to want to herd, to be led by someone else and not think for ourselves. I believe that we do have the ability to think for ourselves, and make our own choices in life. Even with guidance, we can still have our own thoughts, inside and outside the box in religious, cultural and social aspects. I hope this post is better written than the first one today. Enjoy! 

Acceptance

Hey guys!

I’m sorry I haven’t written anything in a while, I was pretty busy, but I’m here now!

My post for today is about acceptance, as you can tell from the title. Accepting what happens and why.

Everyone has their own way of accepting things, and some struggle accepting events that occur if they aren’t exactly the expected situation. I’m going to be quite honest in saying that there are some things that I can not accept for whatever reason. Accepting the reality of a situation is especially difficult when we don’t want something to be the way it is. It’s good to practice accepting things because in the end, we all end up being disappointed for something in our lives, and living in denial of that disappointment is neither healthy or happy.

I’ve struggled writing this post because of being busy, writers block etc. so I apologise if it isn’t up to standard. I hope you all have a nice week :) 

Trust

Sorry I’ve been away for quite a while, I’ve just been kind of busy, and also had writers block so was procastinating a lot more than I should have. 

Usually I believe that the trust between a reader and a writer I sacred, it’s the kind of bond that doesn’t occur anywhere else, as if there is a form of understanding between familiar strangers. However, I know that in real life it is a different story, you can’t just trust any stranger that relates to you in any way. Different people trust people on different scales, some trust very easily, some don’t give trust out without strenuous efforts, while others can be in the middle depending on the type of person (I am one of those people) and some top towards either one of those two extremes. Over time, a persons attitude to trust may change. They may have been betrayed, or perhaps they may have been shown that trusting a person isn’t that bad after all; in either case, a persons attitude can change.

So what is trust then? Well, The dictionary definition of trust is: 

firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something.

Looking into detail at the wording, we can see that trust is not just a casual belief but it is also firm, therefore reliable, which is another phrase that is mentioned in the defenition.

In my experience, I’ve learned that I rely too much on people, and put trust in the wrong people quite often. It’s not that it is a situation that is utterly disastrous, but when someone leaves, it is difficult to deal with because of the situation I’ve put myself in. However, this is besides the my point. 

My point is, essentially, be careful how you give away your trust, because it is a delicate thing, and it can be broken much faster than it can be built. 

I don’t know how much sense this post makes, but I hope you get something out of it. 

Enjoy your day/night! :)

Dissapointment 

Hey guys. 

So, today I was disappointed. Not with another person, but with myself, because I was not up to someone’s standard. I realised on the way home, that I would be dissapointed, and that would be normal, but if I want to be of that persons standard, I have to push myself to it. Not sit and mope about not being good enough. 

So, yes, I am dissapointed, everyone feels like that sometimes right? But that doesn’t mean anyone, including me, has an excuse not to try again, and again, and again, until you get to where you want to be. Just because someone else gets the better of you, it doesn’t mean that you give up. Giving up brings you further away from winning, not closer. 

Everyone makes mistakes, everyone fails, everyone gets dissapointed at some point, but that doesn’t mean that we give up. Winners never gave up when they failed or lost, that’s why they’re winners. So maybe I did have a bad day, maybe it was horrible. Maybe I am dissapointed in myself, but I can learn from that, and push myself to the standard I am aiming for. 

Have a good day, and keep trying! 

Book Review: Lone Wolf

Lone Wolf(Jodi Picoult)

Rating: ****+

This book was utterly amazing. The parts I loved most was the perspective of Luke Warren, and when we saw how the wolves behaved in their community and packs. The way she made it such a surprising turn of events at the end wasastonishing yet brilliant! This would class as one of my highly recommended.

Have a nice day and enjoy!

Coffee and Bookshops

Hey everyone!

The are two things (out of many) I really love in this world are Bookshops and coffee. I don’t know if it’s even possible to describe how much I love these two things. Together, they’re a sanctuary. Everyone has their own place to get away, some have more than one. Mines consist of coffee and a good book in a cosy bookshop or a basketball court. 

Keeping in mind the idea of a sanctuary, I wondered where other people find their own sanctuary. The world is more crowded now than it ever has been, and yes, being surrounded by people is good, but sometimes it’s good to have that space that you can go and feel calm, and clear your head. It’s like a rejuvenation. With all the pressure that the modern world brings, it seems that with everyone rushing to get here and there trying to be perfect we all forget we are just human. 

The sinple pleasures a good cup of coffee (or tea!) and a captivating book in a cosy setting makes you realise that. When you read a book, you can delve into it, become a spectator, it feels like a different world. Then you return to the real world, and for a second, you feel no need to be perfect. This has been my experience in past occasions. You feel human. 

I believe that books are more than a source of entertainment or inspiration. They are so much more than that. They make you feel human. Characters have flaws, and when you read, and relate to a character you feel perfectly human. 

So enjoy the pleasures of a cup of coffee and a wonderful bookshop, and remember, we are all just human. 

Book Review: The Hobbit

The Hobbit (J.R.R.Tolkien)

Rating: ***+

This has proven itself a classic and it is one of the best fantasy-fiction books I’ve read. I love the morals the book has, including loyalty, faith and perseverance. It is definitely a thrilling adventure and the writing style is also wonderful. The Hobbit definitely keeps you on your toes.

Have a good day and enjoy!

Book Review: Between The Lines

Between The Lines ( Jodi Picoult & Samantha Van Leer)

Rating: ****

This was one of the books that I really enjoyed reading because of its thrilling sense of adventure. It was a huge page-turner and definitely had some wonderful messages within the book. I loved the use of a fairytale setting within the modern setting of the book and the characters were well made. The writing style was delightful on top of everything else! I highly reccomend this one for anyone who wants a break from their usual genre, as it doesn’t fit into just one category. It’s a book that can be read over and over. 

Enjoy and have a nice day! 

I’m Back

Hi everyone,

I’ve returned, and hopefully for regular posts this time because I know I struggle with committing to things. I am going to keep this blog as a personal blog that I will post stuff that I usually would but I have been given the idea of writing book reviews. I am unsure whether I should but I will try to. 

There is a reason that I’m back, as always. Today I met someone new, a writer in fact. I’m not sure what it was, but I bought her book in this old bookshop and she came downstairs to sign it for me. I was excited, being myself, but when she asked if I wrote, something clicked. I’ve been so busy this past year keeping up with different things and I realised that I had completely forgotten about this blog and what it means to me. 

I have started reading her book and so far it is amazing, worthy of a book review for sure. The way it is written connects to me. Perhaps because I’ve met her or because I know it’s a true story, either way, I feel connected to this book. 

I was reading it in the car on the way home and my mind was working like clockwork thinking of why it connected to me. Then I realised that it was because she was brave enough to take a new path in life. This isn’t exactly what connected me. I feel connected to this book because it was published. It has an impact on people. The setting of the story is literally in a book town, and that is what made a connection. Here is this writer and film maker that has the power to make a change in the world. Just like every writer, producer, film director in the world. And she is making a difference. She is telling her story. 

These thoughts got me thinking that if all writers have the power to make a difference then why aren’t I doing the same. I’m always trying to think of a way to leave my own mark on the world, something to prove I can make a difference, and all along the answer was right in front of me, it just took an author in a small book town and a spontaneous day trip to make me realise that. 

So I am going to try to keep this site updated with new stuff on a regular basis, once a fortnight would be the most likely timing. 

Thanks for reading!

I Am A Woman

A poem I wrote for a women’s event in my area:

I am a woman, in shape, mind and nature. I don’t need to be smart, pretty or powerful because I am strong. Strong in ways only a woman can be. 

They say ‘She’s a girl, she’s weak’ but they can’t push me down forever. I get back up, dust off and keep going. I am unbreakable…

I am a woman, strong and caring. I am compassionate and focused. Focused and compassionate. I have a mind stronger than than the strongest of men. There is no physical boundary for my love, for I am lovable…

What?! You can say you can’t hear me, just wait, you will. Because I am every Miss, Ms and Mrs, here to tell you that I AM .Try to shape me, I shape myself. Try to drag me down, I climb back up. My success is determined by my will, no one else’s. So do you hear me now? 

I am a woman, always striving. I keep going ‘cos I don’t have to see the light to know it’s there. I strive to be all I can BE. A scientist, an artist, a lawyer, a doctor, a mother, a wife and a daughter. I will not be broken and I will not stop. If I want to get there, I will! I am determined. I am a woman

I am a woman, a multi faceted woman, funny, clever, loving, strong and so much more. I can write, speak, sing, whisper, shout and tell you this: I am me.

Try to shape me, I shape myself. Try to drag me down, I climb back up. My success is determined by my will, no one else’s. You hear me now, don’t you?

I am a woman, and I can long. I long for the mind of Marie Curie, the literary genius of Jane Austen, the skill of Serena Williams, the voice of Maya Angelou, the courage of Malala, the determination of Wangari Maathai. I long for all these things, but most of all, I long to be myself, and when I am encouraged to be fully myself… I AM A WOMAN