I’m feeling like I’m back on the writing train now that I’ve posted, so another post is worth it.
I recently went to visit a First Nations woman in Canada that did healing with horses, and if I’m honest at first I didn’t completely believe in spiritual healing. However I do believe that animals, especially horses, have a healing effect on people because of their natural instinct as herd animals. She showed me that for a horse to trust a person, first they have to show the horse that they are in charge, by acting like a stallion in the herd and showing who is in charge, without violent action, and this can only be done with confidence, because if the stallion is not confident, how will he protect the herd. The next step was to act like the lead mare (female horse) and to lead the horse, which will only occur if you have earned their trust. If the horse trust you, if will follow you, however, if you do not walk with confidence. Your head isn’t up, and shoulders aren’t square, the horse will lose confidence in you and stop following you.
I eventually achieved this but it was difficult at first because I did not act with confidence. The part that I found most important in what she taught was that this way of acting could be applied to everyday life. To walk with confidence showing that you are not scared of people is important. She also told me that being open is good, but sometimes we need to put up some walls to protect ourselves from harm. The confusing messages the horse was getting because I kept breaking and making the bond between us could also be applied to a teenager growing up. Mixed messages are sent to our parents because we want some distance but not all of it. Picking the big battles is a better way of gaining trust than picking unnecessary small ones, because they are actually important to you and not just insignificant.
This summer I have found that confidence is such an important part of our lives, especially for teenagers because we are still finding who we are and who we want to become. I’m not the best teenager in the world, and I’m not the wisest or the smartest, but I can try and I believe that trying to be the best with confidence in yourself is the best attitude to have.
The short amount of time I spent with the horses and this healer inspired me. Humans are not herd animals, though we are social, but we have a tendency to want to herd, to be led by someone else and not think for ourselves. I believe that we do have the ability to think for ourselves, and make our own choices in life. Even with guidance, we can still have our own thoughts, inside and outside the box in religious, cultural and social aspects. I hope this post is better written than the first one today. Enjoy!