“They like my body, not me”

Sitting here trying to write with Christina Aguleria playing in the background I wonder if anyone reading this will take away anything from it, I hope you do. So I want to start by saying that to me, you are beautiful and that is the truth. 

This was inspired by two conversations I have had with two different people, whose identities will stay anonymous as usual. The situation is seen everywhere in everyday life, but this specific conversation was based on Instagram. 

I would like to address the boys (and some girls) first. Those people that comment ‘hot’ or ‘fit’ and other terms and emojis on photos that girls post with a lot revealed or even just a normal picture of a girl, although this post is mostly based on the more sexualised types of photos. Please boys, think before you comment! Have you ever gotten to know the girl properly? Do you think it’s right to objectify her in such a way? Is it right to follow a girl purely because she is pretty and you want that on your feed? Those are pretty important questions to ask yourself before you do anything else. 

Every single girl on this planet is beautiful inside and out and every one of us deserve respect. This respect is essential now, especially because we now live in a world where social media is becoming more and more prominent in everyday lives. For a girl to say, “he likes me for my body, not for my personality” we must really be going wrong somewhere. Girls and women are human beings not objects that are there for you to look  at like a piece of art. Sure, you can love the way your girlfriend/partner/wife looks, but do not ever let her think that it is only her physical beauty that you love. Physical beauty does not last forever, but inner beauty does. So please think before you comment, because maybe that girl you find ‘hot’ isn’t as confident as you think, and your comments can be detrimental in the long term.

Now to the girls. We live in a world that bases our worth on our physical beauty. However, nobody can judge how much you are worth. That is for you to decide. I get so mad when I see girls my age posting pictures and selfies with barely anything on and most of their cleavage on show. What makes me more mad is when they keep track of all of their followers and likes. If someone doesn’t seem you worthy of their feed, that is their problem and it shouldn’t affect what you think of yourself, you don’t need to care. If you were to look down in history, women have progressed so much! We have gone from being objects that were seen to belong at home to becoming scientists, doctors, artists, politicians, and so much more. Yet now, we are choosing to make ourselves objects once again. Objects that are sexualised as if sexuality is the only thing that with attract someone’s attention. It isn’t. Science has proven that successful relationships are based on trust, compatibility, and respect not sexual attraction.

Hardly anyone seems to think that they are beautiful anymore and that is what needs to change. When you are reading this I want you to learn on thing. You should not base your self worth on what other people think of you. That is where we are going wrong. Yes wear make up, be girly, wear what you want, but do it for yourself and do it let what other people think of you be the basis of your value and worth. If someone tries to objectify you, don’t stand for it. Have pride in yourself. You are so beautiful inside and out and I shouldn’t have to tell you that. Girls, you shouldn’t let those comments boost your self-esteem, because you need to find that confidence within yourself. As I have said before, hardly anyone thinks they are beautiful anymore, even though everyone is beautiful. It is so confusing that people can’t see that they don’t need somebody else’s approval to feel good about themselves, because you are already beautiful and smart. Remember that fact, and wake up every morning and say to yourself, “I am smart, I am beautiful, I am worth it”. 

Enjoy! :)

Confidence and More…

Hey guys!

I’m feeling like I’m back on the writing train now that I’ve posted, so another post is worth it. 

I recently went to visit a First Nations woman in Canada that did healing with horses, and if I’m honest at first I didn’t completely believe in spiritual healing. However I do believe that animals, especially horses, have a healing effect on people because of their natural instinct as herd animals. She showed me that for a horse to trust a person, first they have to show the horse that they are in charge, by acting like a stallion in the herd and showing who is in charge, without violent action, and this can only be done with confidence, because if the stallion is not confident, how will he protect the herd. The next step was to act like the lead mare (female horse) and to lead the horse, which will only occur if you have earned their trust. If the horse trust you, if will follow you, however, if you do not walk with confidence. Your head isn’t up, and shoulders aren’t square, the horse will lose confidence in you and stop following you. 

I eventually achieved this but it was difficult at first because I did not act with confidence. The part that I found most important in what she taught was that this way of acting could be applied to everyday life. To walk with confidence showing that you are not scared of people is important. She also told me that being open is good, but sometimes we need to put up some walls to protect ourselves from harm. The confusing messages the horse was getting because I kept breaking and making the bond between us could also be applied to a teenager growing up. Mixed messages are sent to our parents because we want some distance but not all of it. Picking the big battles is a better way of gaining trust than picking unnecessary small ones, because they are actually important to you and not just insignificant.

This summer I have found that confidence is such an important part of our lives, especially for teenagers because we are still finding who we are and who we want to become. I’m not the best teenager in the world, and I’m not the wisest or the smartest, but I can try and I believe that trying to be the best with confidence in yourself is the best attitude to have. 

The short amount of time I spent with the horses and this healer inspired me. Humans are not herd animals, though we are social, but we have a tendency to want to herd, to be led by someone else and not think for ourselves. I believe that we do have the ability to think for ourselves, and make our own choices in life. Even with guidance, we can still have our own thoughts, inside and outside the box in religious, cultural and social aspects. I hope this post is better written than the first one today. Enjoy! 


Hey guys!

I’m sorry I haven’t written anything in a while, I was pretty busy, but I’m here now!

My post for today is about acceptance, as you can tell from the title. Accepting what happens and why.

Everyone has their own way of accepting things, and some struggle accepting events that occur if they aren’t exactly the expected situation. I’m going to be quite honest in saying that there are some things that I can not accept for whatever reason. Accepting the reality of a situation is especially difficult when we don’t want something to be the way it is. It’s good to practice accepting things because in the end, we all end up being disappointed for something in our lives, and living in denial of that disappointment is neither healthy or happy.

I’ve struggled writing this post because of being busy, writers block etc. so I apologise if it isn’t up to standard. I hope you all have a nice week :) 


Sorry I’ve been away for quite a while, I’ve just been kind of busy, and also had writers block so was procastinating a lot more than I should have. 

Usually I believe that the trust between a reader and a writer I sacred, it’s the kind of bond that doesn’t occur anywhere else, as if there is a form of understanding between familiar strangers. However, I know that in real life it is a different story, you can’t just trust any stranger that relates to you in any way. Different people trust people on different scales, some trust very easily, some don’t give trust out without strenuous efforts, while others can be in the middle depending on the type of person (I am one of those people) and some top towards either one of those two extremes. Over time, a persons attitude to trust may change. They may have been betrayed, or perhaps they may have been shown that trusting a person isn’t that bad after all; in either case, a persons attitude can change.

So what is trust then? Well, The dictionary definition of trust is: 

firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something.

Looking into detail at the wording, we can see that trust is not just a casual belief but it is also firm, therefore reliable, which is another phrase that is mentioned in the defenition.

In my experience, I’ve learned that I rely too much on people, and put trust in the wrong people quite often. It’s not that it is a situation that is utterly disastrous, but when someone leaves, it is difficult to deal with because of the situation I’ve put myself in. However, this is besides the my point. 

My point is, essentially, be careful how you give away your trust, because it is a delicate thing, and it can be broken much faster than it can be built. 

I don’t know how much sense this post makes, but I hope you get something out of it. 

Enjoy your day/night! :)


Hey guys. 

So, today I was disappointed. Not with another person, but with myself, because I was not up to someone’s standard. I realised on the way home, that I would be dissapointed, and that would be normal, but if I want to be of that persons standard, I have to push myself to it. Not sit and mope about not being good enough. 

So, yes, I am dissapointed, everyone feels like that sometimes right? But that doesn’t mean anyone, including me, has an excuse not to try again, and again, and again, until you get to where you want to be. Just because someone else gets the better of you, it doesn’t mean that you give up. Giving up brings you further away from winning, not closer. 

Everyone makes mistakes, everyone fails, everyone gets dissapointed at some point, but that doesn’t mean that we give up. Winners never gave up when they failed or lost, that’s why they’re winners. So maybe I did have a bad day, maybe it was horrible. Maybe I am dissapointed in myself, but I can learn from that, and push myself to the standard I am aiming for. 

Have a good day, and keep trying! 

Book Review: Lone Wolf

Lone Wolf(Jodi Picoult)

Rating: ****+

This book was utterly amazing. The parts I loved most was the perspective of Luke Warren, and when we saw how the wolves behaved in their community and packs. The way she made it such a surprising turn of events at the end wasastonishing yet brilliant! This would class as one of my highly recommended.

Have a nice day and enjoy!

Coffee and Bookshops

Hey everyone!

The are two things (out of many) I really love in this world are Bookshops and coffee. I don’t know if it’s even possible to describe how much I love these two things. Together, they’re a sanctuary. Everyone has their own place to get away, some have more than one. Mines consist of coffee and a good book in a cosy bookshop or a basketball court. 

Keeping in mind the idea of a sanctuary, I wondered where other people find their own sanctuary. The world is more crowded now than it ever has been, and yes, being surrounded by people is good, but sometimes it’s good to have that space that you can go and feel calm, and clear your head. It’s like a rejuvenation. With all the pressure that the modern world brings, it seems that with everyone rushing to get here and there trying to be perfect we all forget we are just human. 

The sinple pleasures a good cup of coffee (or tea!) and a captivating book in a cosy setting makes you realise that. When you read a book, you can delve into it, become a spectator, it feels like a different world. Then you return to the real world, and for a second, you feel no need to be perfect. This has been my experience in past occasions. You feel human. 

I believe that books are more than a source of entertainment or inspiration. They are so much more than that. They make you feel human. Characters have flaws, and when you read, and relate to a character you feel perfectly human. 

So enjoy the pleasures of a cup of coffee and a wonderful bookshop, and remember, we are all just human. 

Book Review: The Hobbit

The Hobbit (J.R.R.Tolkien)

Rating: ***+

This has proven itself a classic and it is one of the best fantasy-fiction books I’ve read. I love the morals the book has, including loyalty, faith and perseverance. It is definitely a thrilling adventure and the writing style is also wonderful. The Hobbit definitely keeps you on your toes.

Have a good day and enjoy!

Book Review: Between The Lines

Between The Lines ( Jodi Picoult & Samantha Van Leer)

Rating: ****

This was one of the books that I really enjoyed reading because of its thrilling sense of adventure. It was a huge page-turner and definitely had some wonderful messages within the book. I loved the use of a fairytale setting within the modern setting of the book and the characters were well made. The writing style was delightful on top of everything else! I highly reccomend this one for anyone who wants a break from their usual genre, as it doesn’t fit into just one category. It’s a book that can be read over and over. 

Enjoy and have a nice day! 

I’m Back

Hi everyone,

I’ve returned, and hopefully for regular posts this time because I know I struggle with committing to things. I am going to keep this blog as a personal blog that I will post stuff that I usually would but I have been given the idea of writing book reviews. I am unsure whether I should but I will try to. 

There is a reason that I’m back, as always. Today I met someone new, a writer in fact. I’m not sure what it was, but I bought her book in this old bookshop and she came downstairs to sign it for me. I was excited, being myself, but when she asked if I wrote, something clicked. I’ve been so busy this past year keeping up with different things and I realised that I had completely forgotten about this blog and what it means to me. 

I have started reading her book and so far it is amazing, worthy of a book review for sure. The way it is written connects to me. Perhaps because I’ve met her or because I know it’s a true story, either way, I feel connected to this book. 

I was reading it in the car on the way home and my mind was working like clockwork thinking of why it connected to me. Then I realised that it was because she was brave enough to take a new path in life. This isn’t exactly what connected me. I feel connected to this book because it was published. It has an impact on people. The setting of the story is literally in a book town, and that is what made a connection. Here is this writer and film maker that has the power to make a change in the world. Just like every writer, producer, film director in the world. And she is making a difference. She is telling her story. 

These thoughts got me thinking that if all writers have the power to make a difference then why aren’t I doing the same. I’m always trying to think of a way to leave my own mark on the world, something to prove I can make a difference, and all along the answer was right in front of me, it just took an author in a small book town and a spontaneous day trip to make me realise that. 

So I am going to try to keep this site updated with new stuff on a regular basis, once a fortnight would be the most likely timing. 

Thanks for reading!