Realising Where You Want to Be

Hi everyone!

I’m sorry for having not written anything in such a long time, but I’ve been very busy with schoolwork and reading lots of things, though I do have two half finished posts that I can’t seem to finish properly so I will try get them done over the summer as they are quite long posts compared to my other ones. On to the actual topic of this post, finding out where you are meant to be. Or at least in your own opinion. 

I’m only a teenage girl, so I can’t speak for everyone when I say, it can be hard to find out where you want to be in life. I mean, I’ve gone through phases in my life where I’ve wanted to be a freelance journalist, a lawyer, and even an author at one point or a bookshop owner, but after watching the movie ‘Gifted Hands’ my life plans completely changed and everything spiralled into this whole part of me I didn’t know could exist. I mean, I had always loved science and maths but I’d never once thought that I would want to be a doctor of all things, let alone want to specialise in the human brain. But as time went on, and I learned more and more about the brain and the medical profession in general, I could not let it go. I’d been bitten by the medicine bug, so to speak. I am not sure if everyone does figure out what they want to do in their lifetime, or before they start any type of career but for me, I gained this realisation when I was about 14/15 years old, which is likely to be on the earlier side of things in comparison to the average person, but don’t quote me on that. We are always told by our teachers, don’t worry if you don’t know what you want to do yet, not everyone knows right away, and it is so true. 

However, I do believe that everyone is meant to find where they were meant to be, and that the key to finding this is having a feeling about it that you haven’t had with anything else. For me, finding where I want to be, where I feel I am meant to be, meant realising there isn’t really room for a plan B (though that is always a very good idea) because there is a feeling in your gut that you were made to do exactly this. I’m a firm believe that people are ewual, and as a strong femenist, I also believe that both men and women should be able to achieve their goals, no matter what they are. If a person wants to stay home and raise their children despite disapproval from society then I do believe they deserve much more applause than they are likely to get. The same applies to if a person wishes to go out and make their mark on the world(in a good way). These two ideas as well as others should be seen as equal achievements as if you have the courage to go where you feel you belong, with or without major support, because it makes you happy and it is the life you want to live then I believe that you are a winner, and no status can define you. So my advise here is to follow your dreams and in the words of Barbra Arrowsmith-Young, “our brains shape us just as we can shape our brains.”

Thanks for reading! 


Hey guys, long tome no post! Today I wanted to talk about mistakes because I feel like a lot of us make them, and I feel like no matter how big or small they are, they all matter.

I believe that sometimes the mistakes we make can hurt others more than ourselves and it can leave us with a lot of guilt that wouldn’t be there if we had just hurt ourselves with the mistake. Although mistakes do give us life lessons, sometimes we still continue to do the same thing over and over until it hurts us more than before.

It’s hard to deal with mistakes we make sometimes, but recently, I’ve been listening to a lot of Brene Brown, and I’ve found that her research and ideas about vulnerability and shame is very accurate. She says, creativity and success cannot be achieved without vulnerability, and that shame is highly linked with addiction, violence, depression, as well as many other things. I think that when we make mistakes, we sometimes cannot deal with the idea that we have failed on some level, within friendship, work, school and family. And perhaps this is why we stop allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, but we forget that this also stops us from achieving our full potential in many aspects of life. This is why it’s so important for us to learn to be vulnerable because if we can take off our armour, we can accept our failures and deal with them and it will help us live our lives more openly to everything. 

I know that even though I am saying all of this, I will still have some armour left on me, and it will take time to allow myself to be vulnerable as it would with anyone else that would try this. However, I know that I can try to the best of my ability to accept vulnerability as a part of who I am. So, if success cannot be achieved without failure and vulnerability, and making mistakes, then isn’t it better to gain that success than to hide from faliure and making mistakes? 

I’ll leave that for you to think about. Hope you all have a good day and enjoy! 

“They like my body, not me”

Sitting here trying to write with Christina Aguleria playing in the background I wonder if anyone reading this will take away anything from it, I hope you do. So I want to start by saying that to me, you are beautiful and that is the truth. 

This was inspired by two conversations I have had with two different people, whose identities will stay anonymous as usual. The situation is seen everywhere in everyday life, but this specific conversation was based on Instagram. 

I would like to address the boys (and some girls) first. Those people that comment ‘hot’ or ‘fit’ and other terms and emojis on photos that girls post with a lot revealed or even just a normal picture of a girl, although this post is mostly based on the more sexualised types of photos. Please boys, think before you comment! Have you ever gotten to know the girl properly? Do you think it’s right to objectify her in such a way? Is it right to follow a girl purely because she is pretty and you want that on your feed? Those are pretty important questions to ask yourself before you do anything else. 

Every single girl on this planet is beautiful inside and out and every one of us deserve respect. This respect is essential now, especially because we now live in a world where social media is becoming more and more prominent in everyday lives. For a girl to say, “he likes me for my body, not for my personality” we must really be going wrong somewhere. Girls and women are human beings not objects that are there for you to look  at like a piece of art. Sure, you can love the way your girlfriend/partner/wife looks, but do not ever let her think that it is only her physical beauty that you love. Physical beauty does not last forever, but inner beauty does. So please think before you comment, because maybe that girl you find ‘hot’ isn’t as confident as you think, and your comments can be detrimental in the long term.

Now to the girls. We live in a world that bases our worth on our physical beauty. However, nobody can judge how much you are worth. That is for you to decide. I get so mad when I see girls my age posting pictures and selfies with barely anything on and most of their cleavage on show. What makes me more mad is when they keep track of all of their followers and likes. If someone doesn’t seem you worthy of their feed, that is their problem and it shouldn’t affect what you think of yourself, you don’t need to care. If you were to look down in history, women have progressed so much! We have gone from being objects that were seen to belong at home to becoming scientists, doctors, artists, politicians, and so much more. Yet now, we are choosing to make ourselves objects once again. Objects that are sexualised as if sexuality is the only thing that with attract someone’s attention. It isn’t. Science has proven that successful relationships are based on trust, compatibility, and respect not sexual attraction.

Hardly anyone seems to think that they are beautiful anymore and that is what needs to change. When you are reading this I want you to learn on thing. You should not base your self worth on what other people think of you. That is where we are going wrong. Yes wear make up, be girly, wear what you want, but do it for yourself and do it let what other people think of you be the basis of your value and worth. If someone tries to objectify you, don’t stand for it. Have pride in yourself. You are so beautiful inside and out and I shouldn’t have to tell you that. Girls, you shouldn’t let those comments boost your self-esteem, because you need to find that confidence within yourself. As I have said before, hardly anyone thinks they are beautiful anymore, even though everyone is beautiful. It is so confusing that people can’t see that they don’t need somebody else’s approval to feel good about themselves, because you are already beautiful and smart. Remember that fact, and wake up every morning and say to yourself, “I am smart, I am beautiful, I am worth it”. 


Confidence and More…

Hey guys!

I’m feeling like I’m back on the writing train now that I’ve posted, so another post is worth it. 

I recently went to visit a First Nations woman in Canada that did healing with horses, and if I’m honest at first I didn’t completely believe in spiritual healing. However I do believe that animals, especially horses, have a healing effect on people because of their natural instinct as herd animals. She showed me that for a horse to trust a person, first they have to show the horse that they are in charge, by acting like a stallion in the herd and showing who is in charge, without violent action, and this can only be done with confidence, because if the stallion is not confident, how will he protect the herd. The next step was to act like the lead mare (female horse) and to lead the horse, which will only occur if you have earned their trust. If the horse trust you, if will follow you, however, if you do not walk with confidence. Your head isn’t up, and shoulders aren’t square, the horse will lose confidence in you and stop following you. 

I eventually achieved this but it was difficult at first because I did not act with confidence. The part that I found most important in what she taught was that this way of acting could be applied to everyday life. To walk with confidence showing that you are not scared of people is important. She also told me that being open is good, but sometimes we need to put up some walls to protect ourselves from harm. The confusing messages the horse was getting because I kept breaking and making the bond between us could also be applied to a teenager growing up. Mixed messages are sent to our parents because we want some distance but not all of it. Picking the big battles is a better way of gaining trust than picking unnecessary small ones, because they are actually important to you and not just insignificant.

This summer I have found that confidence is such an important part of our lives, especially for teenagers because we are still finding who we are and who we want to become. I’m not the best teenager in the world, and I’m not the wisest or the smartest, but I can try and I believe that trying to be the best with confidence in yourself is the best attitude to have. 

The short amount of time I spent with the horses and this healer inspired me. Humans are not herd animals, though we are social, but we have a tendency to want to herd, to be led by someone else and not think for ourselves. I believe that we do have the ability to think for ourselves, and make our own choices in life. Even with guidance, we can still have our own thoughts, inside and outside the box in religious, cultural and social aspects. I hope this post is better written than the first one today. Enjoy! 


Hey guys!

I’m sorry I haven’t written anything in a while, I was pretty busy, but I’m here now!

My post for today is about acceptance, as you can tell from the title. Accepting what happens and why.

Everyone has their own way of accepting things, and some struggle accepting events that occur if they aren’t exactly the expected situation. I’m going to be quite honest in saying that there are some things that I can not accept for whatever reason. Accepting the reality of a situation is especially difficult when we don’t want something to be the way it is. It’s good to practice accepting things because in the end, we all end up being disappointed for something in our lives, and living in denial of that disappointment is neither healthy or happy.

I’ve struggled writing this post because of being busy, writers block etc. so I apologise if it isn’t up to standard. I hope you all have a nice week :) 


Sorry I’ve been away for quite a while, I’ve just been kind of busy, and also had writers block so was procastinating a lot more than I should have. 

Usually I believe that the trust between a reader and a writer I sacred, it’s the kind of bond that doesn’t occur anywhere else, as if there is a form of understanding between familiar strangers. However, I know that in real life it is a different story, you can’t just trust any stranger that relates to you in any way. Different people trust people on different scales, some trust very easily, some don’t give trust out without strenuous efforts, while others can be in the middle depending on the type of person (I am one of those people) and some top towards either one of those two extremes. Over time, a persons attitude to trust may change. They may have been betrayed, or perhaps they may have been shown that trusting a person isn’t that bad after all; in either case, a persons attitude can change.

So what is trust then? Well, The dictionary definition of trust is: 

firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something.

Looking into detail at the wording, we can see that trust is not just a casual belief but it is also firm, therefore reliable, which is another phrase that is mentioned in the defenition.

In my experience, I’ve learned that I rely too much on people, and put trust in the wrong people quite often. It’s not that it is a situation that is utterly disastrous, but when someone leaves, it is difficult to deal with because of the situation I’ve put myself in. However, this is besides the my point. 

My point is, essentially, be careful how you give away your trust, because it is a delicate thing, and it can be broken much faster than it can be built. 

I don’t know how much sense this post makes, but I hope you get something out of it. 

Enjoy your day/night!🙂


Hey guys. 

So, today I was disappointed. Not with another person, but with myself, because I was not up to someone’s standard. I realised on the way home, that I would be dissapointed, and that would be normal, but if I want to be of that persons standard, I have to push myself to it. Not sit and mope about not being good enough. 

So, yes, I am dissapointed, everyone feels like that sometimes right? But that doesn’t mean anyone, including me, has an excuse not to try again, and again, and again, until you get to where you want to be. Just because someone else gets the better of you, it doesn’t mean that you give up. Giving up brings you further away from winning, not closer. 

Everyone makes mistakes, everyone fails, everyone gets dissapointed at some point, but that doesn’t mean that we give up. Winners never gave up when they failed or lost, that’s why they’re winners. So maybe I did have a bad day, maybe it was horrible. Maybe I am dissapointed in myself, but I can learn from that, and push myself to the standard I am aiming for. 

Have a good day, and keep trying! 

Book Review: Lone Wolf

Lone Wolf(Jodi Picoult)

Rating: ****+

This book was utterly amazing. The parts I loved most was the perspective of Luke Warren, and when we saw how the wolves behaved in their community and packs. The way she made it such a surprising turn of events at the end wasastonishing yet brilliant! This would class as one of my highly recommended.

Have a nice day and enjoy!

Coffee and Bookshops

Hey everyone!

The are two things (out of many) I really love in this world are Bookshops and coffee. I don’t know if it’s even possible to describe how much I love these two things. Together, they’re a sanctuary. Everyone has their own place to get away, some have more than one. Mines consist of coffee and a good book in a cosy bookshop or a basketball court. 

Keeping in mind the idea of a sanctuary, I wondered where other people find their own sanctuary. The world is more crowded now than it ever has been, and yes, being surrounded by people is good, but sometimes it’s good to have that space that you can go and feel calm, and clear your head. It’s like a rejuvenation. With all the pressure that the modern world brings, it seems that with everyone rushing to get here and there trying to be perfect we all forget we are just human. 

The sinple pleasures a good cup of coffee (or tea!) and a captivating book in a cosy setting makes you realise that. When you read a book, you can delve into it, become a spectator, it feels like a different world. Then you return to the real world, and for a second, you feel no need to be perfect. This has been my experience in past occasions. You feel human. 

I believe that books are more than a source of entertainment or inspiration. They are so much more than that. They make you feel human. Characters have flaws, and when you read, and relate to a character you feel perfectly human. 

So enjoy the pleasures of a cup of coffee and a wonderful bookshop, and remember, we are all just human. 

Book Review: The Hobbit

The Hobbit (J.R.R.Tolkien)

Rating: ***+

This has proven itself a classic and it is one of the best fantasy-fiction books I’ve read. I love the morals the book has, including loyalty, faith and perseverance. It is definitely a thrilling adventure and the writing style is also wonderful. The Hobbit definitely keeps you on your toes.

Have a good day and enjoy!